2015 NGH Convention Notes for Professional Hypnotists

The following list describes many common viewpoints and behaviors holding a person back from resolving inner child conflicts. All these items are energy blocks.  To clear energy blocks, one must first be aware they are experiencing self-limiting and/or self-sabotaging thoughts. This list helps you identify mental energy blocking thoughts.

However, mental energy blockages may also be experienced using any sensory device including a sensation, a color, a mind image, a feeling, a sound, the memorized recall of a person’s voice, etc. Therefore, it can be helpful to understand what makes up any mentally created energy block.  Once you know the building blocks of that energy block thought pattern, you can disassemble it and transform it into something useful to you.













Insulting others

Short temper

Temper tantrums

Obsessive criticism

Obsessive, compulsive and impulsive versions of

any out of control behavior that blames


Self-limiting uncertainty




Strategic pitting against each other

Unfair, intimidating, manipulating judging

Unrealistic crisis


When we hear these types of phrases as children, we grow up feeling threatened. If you regularly feel threatened, you feel like a victim. Feeling like a victim is an energy block. Clear energy blocks and you feel so much better!


When you live in victim consciousness, you’re afraid to make life decisions. You have conditioned your mind to believe you can only believe what others tell you to believe.


So, the roles we play are either those of a happy-go-lucky type or of victim consciousness.



4 Common Dialoging Phrases Others Have Used to Discourage Your Inner Child From Trusting Him/Herself


Felix –


You didn’t do good enough. You are not good enough.


Can’t you do anything right?


Leona –


That was a complete waste of time. Don’t waste my time with such foolishness ever again or I shall have to punish you until you obey me.


Don’t undermine my authority. I already told you THIS is the way we are doing things. Don’t ask me again. I won’t change my mind.


Kyle –


You made me look like a complete fool in front of everybody.


You just don’t appreciate what you have, you ingrate!


You just don’t appreciate all the sacrifices I’ve made for you.


Janie –


Nice girls don’t do that. You should feel ashamed of yourself!


You shouldn’t say yes and then not follow through.


People won’t trust you unless they know they can rely on you.


4 Possible Solutions for Resolving Deep Mistrust in Self and Others

Felix – To resolve deep mistrust so changes can occur, a factual-based, analytical thinking style child needs to open to creating new and hopeful possibilities.  Allowing possibilities for improvement creates hopefulness and a “safe” and secure feeling in the analytical child’s world.

Leona – To resolve deep mistrust this child may need to learn or recognize that others have opinions or insights of equal value to her own.  Lists or guidelines can help this child to become more fully aware of healthy boundaries.

Kyle – To resolve deep mistrust within this child he has to learn that telling the truth is creative enough to get appreciated attention.  This child benefits from accepting that his approval of himself is more important than getting the approval of others.


Janie – To resolve deep mistrust the relationship focused child must remember that her needs and wants are as important as those of any other person.  Learning to respect herself and care enough about her own well-being to easily be able to say no when that’s appropriate, can feel frightening to this child. It is counter-intuitive to her nature to speak up for herself in situations, which she perceives as confrontational.


Four General Types of Phrases That Encourage the Inner Child to Believe and Trust in Him/Herself and Others


A.                        Felix

“Okay, you expressed three theories, but they didn’t work.  What else might improve the situation?  Come on.  You know what’s wrong.  Use your analytical genius to find more options, other ways to fix it!”


B.                        Leona

“What’s the situation? What plan can be implemented to improve things? I know using your amazing assessment and leadership abilities we can achieve our goal. I’ll be here if you need support.”



C.                        Kyle


“You’re such a creative genius. You’ve really developed your talents. I can tell that you’ve been practicing. You appear so masterful in front of an audience.   Bravo!”

D.                       Janie

“You amaze me. You are such a caring person. It takes a talent like that to help people feel welcome and included. It’s wonderful that you have such a loving attitude. I’m so glad I know you and that we are friends.”


Four General Creative Ways For the Inner Child to Ask for What He/She Needs

E.                        Felix

“I need time to think this through in a one-thing-at-a-time, step-by-step process. I can go at my pace, which is slower than the way you might do it. So that’s what I’m asking for…time to get things done at my pace. Will you be patient please?”

F.                        Leona

“I’ve got a plan to get this done efficiently. I need your help to be part of it.   This is what I’d like us to do.”

G.                       Kyle

“Didn’t you love the way I told the truth with pizzazz? Nobody else can tell a story the way I do it and make it so memorable! So, the next time you want me to tell people what to do and where to go to do it, I’m the right one for the job!”

H.                       Janie

“I like for people to be caring and honest with me. I want to be able to trust you so we can have a peaceful life and know that we can all get along. Here’s a hug for you.”



Empowerment self-esteem raising phrases: The exercise: An adult wounded child imagines watching him/herself sitting in an audience watching him/herself play the part of a confident child being accepted by an adult.


Empowerment phrasing #1:


“Adults I’ve known have spoken loudly. I used to feel afraid, mistrusting and intimidated by the loud way they spoke when I was a child. I told myself to believe that loud voice had the power to convince me I could only be considered worthy of getting attention if I submitted to living by their way of doing things.   But I now know adults who told me I had to do what they told me to do were merely calling their personal opinions rules.”


Then, the child “magically” transforms into an adult.


The client now says. “As an adult, I know understand the timing of my request for these adults to spend time with me when I was a child might have simply been inconvenient timing for them. I was only a child and so I misunderstood their intention.”


Empowerment phrasing #2:



“Instead of believing something bad will happen if I am unable to do things at a rate faster than I am actually able to do them, I believe doing things at my pace is good enough for me.”



Empowerment phrasing #3:


“I am only able to do things at a pace reasonable for me. I choose to do my best even if my best indicates I can only do some things.”



Empowerment phrasing #4:



“Learning how to do things and master them takes time. I’m giving myself time to do things to the best of my ability and that pace is good enough for me.”

4 Quadrant Brain Model Worksheet

Reading List to Understand Brain Functioning


The Creative Brain by Ned Herrmann, (The Ned Herrmann Group: Brain Books,) 2075 Buffalo Creek Rd., Lake Lure, NC 28746,     (704) 625-9153


Brainview: What Does Your Brain Think of You? by Susan Fox, CH, AA, available at brainviewtraininginstitute.com


Gender Brain Science for Practitioners by Beverly Keyes Taylor, CH, available at brainviewtraininginstitute.com


The Psychology of Achievement by Brian Tracy (cassette series available from Nightingale-Conant Corporation, The Human Resources Company, 7300 North Lehigh Avenue, Chicago, IL 60648, (312) 647-0300 or (800) 323-5552


Molecules Of Emotion, Candace Pert, Ph.D.


Growing Up Again by Jeane Illsley Clarke and Connie Dawson


Women Don’t Ask by Linda Babcock and Sara Laschever


Dealing With People You Can’t Stand by Dr. Rick Kirschner and Dr. Rick Brinkman


The Brain-Our Universe Within (The Discovery Channel video tape series)


Influence-The Psychology Of Persuasion by

Dr. Robert B. Cialdini


The Secret Sales Pitch by August Bullock


The Power of Positive Confrontation by Barbara Pachter


Speaking Your Mind in 101 Difficult Situations by Don Gabor